The Single Parent G.R.I.N.D.

A single parent is an uncoupled individual who shoulders MOST or ALL of the day-to-day responsibilities for raising a child or children.

I never wished to be a single parent. My goal was to raise my children in a home with a mom and dad, but life decided different. Being a single parent is very hard, but so rewarding.

A couple of months ago I made a decision as a single mother. I was struggeling, bearly could keep my head above the waters. I made a decision that would mean progress for me and my child, but it also meant public exposure. Now some may critisize my decision and some encouraged me. Being a parent doesn’t come with a manuel. We all try to learn from eachother and we all try to be the best parent we can be.

BUT unless you yourself aren’t a single parent, don’t judge one. In fact don’t judge anyone becaus youdon’t  know the weight they carry and for how long they have been carring.

People told me I should be ashamed of the life I was living. A neglected house, in need of the Foodbank, hardly any money. I raised my eyebrows and was like excuse you??? There is NO shame in the single parent game! I will do what ever it takes to provide for my child and as long as it is legal I WILL NOT BE ASHAMED ABOUT ANYTHING!!!

I want to let every single parent know…there is no shame in our game. From the rising of the sun till the coming up of the moon, GRIND! Grind daily and just make it happen. Keep it clean and keep it legal but you make sure you make it happen every day and know there is no shame in how you make it happen.

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The Single Parent G.R.I.N.D.

G – Go for it

Make it happen mom! Make it happen dad! Just because you have kids doesn’t mean you can’t make it. Pick yourself up. Look in the mirror. Smile. And kick ass today! Be resourcefull, be creative and go for your personal and parenting goals. It may not be easy, but certainly possible. 

R- Restore

Whatever is done to you, make sure you are restored from it. A broken heart will give broken love. You may pack it with beautiful words, but it is still broken. Make sure you heal completely so you can carry any weight that is put on you and give your kids the best they need and deserve.

I- Improve

Improve your knowledge daily. Read, learn and apply. Even if being a parent is what you want be than educate yourself. Learn new parenting skills, interact with other parents. Be a better parent than you were yesterday and help other parents to grow.

N- Neat

Be neat. In other words be organized, be orderly. Have your administration in order. Whenever you need to deal with organisations, know your paperwork and where it is. Sometime organisations/companies want to squeeze more out of you, but be smart. Always 1 step ahead of them. Have a clean house. A clean house will give rest and some piece of mind.

D- Dignity

NEVER ever LOOSE your dignity. Respect yourself first. Love yourself first. If you love and respect you, you will demand it from others and will let go of those that don’t see your value. Be proud of yourself and your child(ren).

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God will never give us more than we can handle. Yes at times it is hard, lonely, looked down on BUT Slay The Game!!! You got this! Show yourself and the world that you are strong, brave and smart enough to handle this. If He thought you couldn’t do it, He wouldn’t have given it to you.

So Single Parent GRIND!!!

I know I will!

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